MS Dating 911.

Dating.

What a truly horrific thing to embark on in your 40s. Especially in Los Angeles. I have to be honest; most of the men here my age who don’t have a recently abandoned family are…mmmmm….not quite right. Something tends to be a bit off with these guys and it really doesn’t help when you add the weight of “health issues” to the already stilted and uncomfortable plate of conversation. Multiple Sclerosis is a dish I don’t think I’ll ever feel fully ready to serve.

I don’t look like I have MS. I don’t act like I have MS. For all we know, if this miraculous treatment I am on continues to work its magic, I may never look or act like I have MS. So does anyone ever really need to know at all?

I believe that they do. I created this blog because I have never been one to ignore or deny reality. I want people to know what it’s like to have MS and I want to support an enormous community of people struggling with all aspects of this disease. I don’t want to shove it under the rug. It is a part of me and I am in love with every part of me and everyone else should be too.

So…exactly how do I tell people I am dating? Do I wait until I know we are going to be in a serious relationship to even think about broaching the subject? Do I spit it out on the first date to get it out of the way and test their moral character simultaneously? Should I wait until date 6 when we sort of feel comfortable with one another and it blends into the regular getting-to-know-you convo?

This is my current conundrum. I have a date this week and I have no idea what’s going to happen. Maybe if it’s going really poorly I’ll just jump up, wave my arms in a fantastically uncoordinated fashion while screaming “I have Multiple Sclerosis!!” and run for the door.

Just another great way MS could benefit me on a daily basis.

 

8 Comments

  1. This is very inspiring. I like how you were able to express your emotions through honest writing. You have a beautiful mind. Amazing work! I hope you could follow my blog page, hopefully you’ll get inspired too. 🙂

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  2. If it makes anything better, I don’t have any major ailments and you’ve turned me down for a date over 40 times. Your MS won’t make a difference if the guy likes you. 🙂

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  3. I can relate to this way too much! I was diagnosed at only 19, but I was married. Now my then husband loved the fact he married a younger woman that was Miss VT teen, but when I was diagnosed that all changed. He got himself a girlfriend and let’s just say the 3 of us didn’t see eye to eye. So that marriage ended, obviously! When I met my now husband the first thing I told him was that I had MS and it was no contagious. We have been together almost 14 years and married almost 7 years. MS should NEVER make a difference to a real man. Continue just being you and stay the strong woman you are!!! I just found your blog and I am looking forward to reading more of your posts!! Please never forget you are always going to be YOU not MS!!! Much love Tracy!!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading, following, commenting and sharing a bit of your story Alyssa! And thank you for the support… you sound like a strong, amazing woman yourself. Much love and health to you as well!

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